On this website, I’ve written about feminism a number of times, and if you’re familiar with this site, you’ll know that I’m an ardent critic of feminism as an ideology. As I’ve mentioned before, feminism, though it began with good intentions, has been hijacked by self-seeking misandrists. In its current form, better known as third-wave feminism, it has become an ideology built around shaming men because they were born men, and the rise and impact of third-wave feminism has led to a state where relations between men and women are strained like never before. One of the effects of this is that a number of men are dropping out of society and giving up on women in general, and that has led to creation of extreme third-wave feminism’s male counterpart – MGTOW.
MGTOW, short for Men Going Their Own Way, is a mostly online community of men who are disaffected from sexual relationships, in part due to how third-wave feminism has warped society’s view on men. It was established in the 2000’s by men like Rob Fedders (owner of NO MA’AM, an early MGTOW blog) as an anti-movement with a conservative libertarian ideology (as evidenced in the original MGTOW manifesto, which dates back to 2001). MGTOW’s will generally tell you that the movement is a reaction to what they perceive as the gynocentric biases found in society, along with all the anti-male slander coming from feminists (which includes feminists considering all men to be potential rapists).
At first glance, MGTOW can seem like a good thing for men, but it isn’t. Just like feminism, the MGTOW movement was eventually hijacked by self-seeking losers, slobs, and genuine misogynists who saw it as a way of rationalising their hatred for women, and thus the movement became the very stereotype third-wave feminists see in all men. A good example of the contemporary MGTOW is a YouTuber who identifies as the “Mayor of MGTOWN” (narcissism much?), a man from Hollywood who become a MGTOW purely because his mother treated his father like a eunuch, and responds by viewing all women as “dumb bitches” (seriously, he refers to all women as this, but he also refers to women as “the enemy”), and advocating that men pick up girls and dump them after four months. I know the word misogynist has been passed around an awful lot by feminists, but if the word misogynist could accurately describe anyone, it would be the so-called “Mayor of MGTOWN”.
Described by Return of Kings writer Matt Forney as a “cult of male loserdom”, MGTOW has become an ideology centred around literally cutting women out of your life. For the MGTOW’s, marriage is emasculation and slavery, and women are considered by the most rabid MGTOW’s as non-human. Sound familiar? Third-wave feminists view marriage as degradation and slavery, and the most rabid of that lot think men are basically monsters. The difference here is that MGTOW’s feel that marriage is doomed to failure and should be avoided, while third-wave feminists want to abolish the institution of marriage entirely. On marriage, MGTOW are a mirror image of feminists, and how appropriate, because MGTOW are the monsters that third-wave feminists have created.
Both ideologies deny the fundamental nature of human beings. Third-wave feminism denies the biological reality that women are inherently feminine in some way, while the MGTOW’s deny the biological need of straight males to seek female companionship. Both movements are actually quite sex-negative, but MGTOW is very hypocritical when it comes to sex. Many MGTOW’s view women as only being good for sex, while simultaneously buying into an ideology that prescribes avoiding women entirely (in fact, they sound more like Catholic celibates).
Both are insistent on spreading their ideology as far as they can. The “Mayor of MGTOWN” openly calls on other MGTOW’s to convert men to the movement through clickbait. Of course, that’s about as far as MGTOW’s can get. Meanwhile, third-wave feminism is dominant in the mainstream media. It has a number of gender ideologues (Anita Sarkeesian, Laurie Penny, Lena Dunham, etc.) who are ready and willing to spread the ideology along with its many disposable myths, and the ideology is regularly distributed through established publications such as The Independent, The Guardian, and Huffington Post, along with ostensibly feminist sites such as Jezebel, Vox, and The Mary Sue. Third-wave feminism is also prevalent in academia also enjoys a vast army of keyboard warriors who troll anyone who disagrees with the neofeminist narrative, as prescribed by a plethora of “social justice” courses. Given the kind of unfair advantage the third-wave feminists have, it’s hardly surprising that MGTOW’s would try and propagate their ideas as far as they can.
As one could expect from gender movements that become so heavily entrenched in their ideology, they have both reached a point where they automatically box you into their ideology because of your genitals. Third-wave feminists assume that if you care about women’s equality, you must be a feminist, but if a woman dares to point out that not all men are misogynists or potential rapists, they accuse her of having “internalised misogyny” (whatever the hell that means). Similarly, MGTOW’s assume that men are MGTOW’s without even knowing it, but if a man dares to point out that not all women are mean-spirited gold-diggers, they accuse him of being a “white knight” (a pejorative term for a man who constantly defends or praises a woman, presumably expecting a romantic or sexual reward in return). This is a good example of we gender and ideology should be kept separate, but that apparently doesn’t stop insane gender ideologues, whether they’re male or female, and both ideologies end up suffering the problem – for all the good and rational feminists and MGTOW’s out there, the movements invariably wind up being judged by the actions of their bad actors (never mind that both ideologies are fundamentally flawed anyway).
Okay, I think I’m done comparing the two ideologies together, so I think I should return to my central point. Through all of this, I have attempted to illustrate the main point – MGTOW as a movement arose as a reaction to the dominance of third-wave feminism, and although it’s not as powerful as third-wave feminism, it is a symptom of the damage third-wave feminism has done to gender relations. I am not a MGTOW myself, nor am I a men’s rights activist (mainly because I know very little about MRA’s). In fact, I don’t like the MGTOW movement because it glamorises the tepid bachelor lifestyle that a man should ideally strive to get out of, but I understand why some men may become MGTOW’s. Third-wave feminism has sought to destroy all the traditional values that they deem to be sexist, but what they don’t realise is that some of the traditions they’re out to destroy may have been better for male-female relationships than the alternative. In their relentless crusade against marriage and flirting, the third-wave feminists have wound up driving the least desirable men of our society to one place, and it might come back to haunt them one day.
On another note, the third-wave feminists’ constant demonising of “toxic masculinity” has caused the majority of men to lose confidence in themselves, and so I’m not surprised that a number of men (not significant but still) would want to go MGTOW, which is essentially just a mirror image of third-wave feminism. The climate of gender relations is now more toxic before, and we have third-wave feminists and MGTOW’s to thank for that. There may yet be dark times ahead.