Often, you might hear the old expression “forgive and forget”. When people tell you this, it’s usually them trying to encourage forgiveness, but as human beings, we can’t be forgiving all the time. To me, “forgive and forget” sounds more like this: “if someone wrongs you, forget all about it”.
It’s quite odd that some Christians would advocate it, since the phrase “forgive and forget” is virtually nowhere to be found the Bible, though forgiveness is preached often in the Bible. Forgiveness, for me, is only the best option if you don’t want to hold a grudge against someone who wronged you. In any other case, if I were wronged, I’d want to be compensated for it. Wouldn’t you?
Also, just because forgive someone doesn’t mean you should forget how you were wronged. I certainly wouldn’t forget it if I was wronged, so why would you? It’s pretty clear that the “forgive and forget” credo is pretty much designed to keep people docile, but it’s not going to work, for there things out there that simply cannot be forgiven. At some point in your life, you’ll know what I’m talking about.